Saturday, December 30, 2006
This morning she sent the children to MIL and during lunch she went to MIL house. Things will be back to normal slightly.
Mom is back, with the maid. Things will be different slightly.
My parents had a very good relationship,” I often hear my clients say.
“What do you mean by good?” I ask.“They didn’t fight. They spent a lot of time with each other.” That may have been the definition of a good relationship years ago, but now most people want more.
Following are ten signs of a healthy relationship.
Is kindness more important to each of you than having your way, being in control, or being right? Do you each receive joy out of being kind to each other? Being kind rather than controlling with each other is essential for a healthy relationship.
SPONTANEOUS WARMTH AND AFFECTION
Do you and your partner well up with warmth and fullness of heart for each other and express it with affection? Are you each able to see the beautiful essence within each other, rather than just the faults? Are you able to get beyond the outer to the unique inner Self of each other? Do you enjoy sharing affection? Warmth and affection are vital for a healthy relationship.
LAUGHTER AND FUN
Can the two of you laugh and play together? Do you appreciate and enjoy each other’s sense of humor? In the midst of difficulties, can you help each other to lighten up with humor? Can you let down and be playful with each other, letting yourselves be like kids together? Laughter and fun play a huge role in a healthy relationship.
ENJOYING TIME TOGETHER AND TIME APART
Are you both each other’s favorite person to spend time with? Are you motivated to set aside time just to be together?Do both of you have friends and interests that you enjoy doing? Are both of you fine when you are not together?Some couples spend a lot of time together because they really enjoy it, while others spend a lot of time together out of fear of being alone. It is important for a healthy relationship for each person to have friends and interests, so that they are not dependent on each other. Dependency is not healthy in a relationship, particularly emotional dependency.
A METHOD FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION
All relationships have some conflict. It is not the conflict that is the issue, but how you deal with it. Do you have a method for resolving conflict, or do the issues just keep getting swept aside? If fighting is part of how you deal with conflict, do you fight fair, or are you hurtful when you fight?
LETTING GO OF ANGER
If one or both of you get angry, do you hang on to it, punishing your partner with it, or can you easily let it go? In healthy relationships, both partners are able to quickly move on, back into kindness and affection.
TRUST IN YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER
Do you each trust that the love is solid, even in very difficult times between you? Do you each know that you can mess up, fail, disappoint the other, emotionally hurt the other – and the love will still be there? Do you each know that the love is about who you are, not what you do? This level of trust is essential for a healthy relationship.
LISTENING, UNDERSTANDING, ACCEPTING AND LEARNING
Do you each feel heard, understood and accepted? Can you share your secrets with your partner without fearing being judged? Are you each more interested in learning about yourselves and each other than you are in controlling each other? Is listening to each other with an open heart and a desire to understand more important than judging each other or defending yourselves?
Is your sexual relationship warm and caring? Can you be sexually spontaneous? Can you talk with each other about what brings pleasure to each of you?
FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF
Do you each feel free to be all that you are? Do you each feel supported in pursuing what brings you joy? Does your partner feel joy for your joy?While some people may naturally be open, kind, affectionate, accepting, and emotionally responsible for themselves, most people need to heal the fears and false beliefs they learned in their families. Healthy relationships evolve as each person evolves in his or her ability to be loving to themselves and each other.
Thursday, December 28, 2006
It seems that they didn't get it in the right perspective. Why send FIL to pujuk M when MIL is the one who uttered the words. MIL must/should be the one who come and apologize/merujuk back to M. Don't send SIL or FIL because that's not the proper way. Wonder when they'll get it, wonder whether MIL will come to M to apologize. Now don't get the impression that MIL is a bad woman. No... she's one of the nicest woman that I've met and I'm glad that she is my MIL. But people do make mistakes and this is one of her mistakes.
As for me..... I'm just leaving it to M and her family to settle this matter. If things does not get better, then only will I come in. Just hope that they'll be able to settle it among themselves soon.
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
SIL came this morning to talk to M. She had this "good" idea of helping M solve the problem that we faced. She already asked her boss (she's working in a kindergarten) about enrolling the two girls with a discounted fee. Besides that there are other things that she talked about.
After listening to M, I guess the main issue involved is the hurtful words said by MIL. And instead of focusing on that, they are focusing or trying to settle other things. Putting the bandage on healthy skin instead of on the wound. Furthermore, because MIL said that in front of M's cousin, who in turn told her mom, who in turn told her sister, who in turn called my SIL and scolded SIL for not taking good care of MIL, things get worse. Cousin's auntie also compare her children with MIL's children, saying that they didn't give any burden to their mother. Words.. words... words.... the tongue can give life and brings death. Words uttered in anger, in impatience, without careful thoughts brings chaos and hurts.
Maybe MIL, FIL, SILs think that M and I are rich and can afford to employ maid to look after MIL. Come on lah... business has been slow the past 2 weeks, plans have changed, and we are still moneyless as before. M's apartment has yet to be rented out (thanks to the tenant who moved out before the expiration of the tenancy) and she has to pay the monthly installment.
While crying and sadness in heart, M told me, "You know, sometimes Money can do wonders". Didn't say anything back to her. Totally agree with her.
What can I say.... yes dear, sometimes Money can do wonders. Everybody hope to have enough or more money. There's nothing wrong to have lots of money. The restriction given in the Bible is whether we live to serve Money or God.
Lord, sometimes we do hope that You'll bless us with more money so that others won't look down on us. But Lord, in any situation our hope and trust is still with You. Our hearts' desire is to serve You, O Lord.
M is now with the children. Holy Spirit, please comfort her and grant her God's perspective. May she draw strength from you O Lord.
The first thing that came to my mind is that probably M's sister has been "hasuting" my MIL. Many times in the past, events occured when M's sister is around the house. Right now I am empty of patience with them. Really don't want to be involved in any matter (if possible) with them. Tried my best not to be there at MIL's house... be it for lunch or any matter. Sometimes... after many times you hear "negative" remarks made about you/family... you just got fed up... just don't want to be around these people. Well... hopefully that in this instance M's sister is not the cause.
M and the children came to the shop after that. She has not bathed, the children have not bathed either. And they have not eaten dinner too. Seems that she just took the children and went back without the usual having dinner at MIL's place. She reached the shop still crying. Annabelle noticed it and told me when she pushed the door. M is very soft-hearted. Many times she cried in the past because of hurtful words. Those from her sisters especially. I think that's why I don't really like to be involved with her family. I give up trying to defend them and rationalise their actions. It grieved me to see M getting hurt unnecessarily. Never pulak I heard about M's sisters got hurt by M's actions or words.
After a while, M calmed down, bathed the two girls and she herself took her bath at the shop's toilet. We talked and it seems that the best options is to look after the children ourself until the maid arrived. Will need to get permission from the other brothers and sisters to allow the maid to look after the children. Maybe we'll take care a portion of the maid's monthly salary. Hopefully they will agree to it. So for the time being, I'll look after the children in the morning and M will take half day in the afternoon for the rest of this week.
M had to go to Tesco to buy the food stuff for the children. Fed Barnabas milk and water. While sucking the water bottle he just fall asleep in my arms. So nice to see him falling asleep. He must be very tired. M didn't managed to buy the ingredients that she wanted because out of stock. Had to make do with other ingredients.
After M and the children went back, I received an sms from M's sister saying, "Nya is so sad now! keep on crying! she's so tired take care the three! if no them, she'll borring! i think u can take 1 mad to help her! then u can bring ur mad to clean ur house too! things can be settle! she's old! let her rest more!". Feels bad and sad for MIL but things will surely not be the same. If only MIL would talk nicely to M about the situation instead of letting out her frustration loudly... but things said can never be erased... it is said and people got hurt.
Lord... grant M and I the wisdom in this matter. May this matter brings the best attitude and character in M and I, that will glorify your name.
Tuesday, December 26, 2006
Glad I made the decision to close the shop and travelled up to meet her. Evening time, the children had their gift-exchange and after dinner (which is also steamboat, plus spaghetti). The children enjoyed it very much. The parents too. Good to catch up with one another. Bro Ann, Chai, Luke showing off their cameras, while Bro Andrew with his videocam. By 9pm, we took family photos and thereafter travelled back home. Reached home at 11.05pm.
Next family gathering will most probably be during CNY.
Sunday, December 24, 2006
As for now.... let it be. Will see what happens when Giant opens. Already got 2 Malay guys asking about the vacancy but.... not sure whether they are able to do basic pc troubleshooting.
Newey.... will have to do things on my own for now.
Saturday, December 23, 2006
This is also a good example of good relationship of mother and daughter-in-law. Nowadays we always hear about the conflicts between a girl and her MIL. Ruth and Naomi might have formed a deep and close relationship while Ruth is with her husband.
The story of Ruth is indeed a good story to be made into a film. Many good characters that can be portrayed through this story.
At the end of the story... it was acknowledge that Ruth was a woman of noble character and through her many great man came into history.
Oh ya... this is not just a story but real event that happened long time ago in Israel.
Friday, December 22, 2006
Oh ya... this morning I received a call from streamyx asking me to answer their survey. Only a few questions about their service and my suggestions on what/where/how to improve their service. Told them to fasten the processing of new applications and a few other things.
Wonder whether they will act upon the answers/suggestions given.
If only there are other cheaper broadband available in this place, I will surely definitely absolutely subscribe to it.
Wonder whether there'll be more customers for me too. God willing.
Thursday, December 21, 2006
One of them is Jepthath... born of a slave girl. In today's world, this man would not be accepted as a leader because of his low caste/status/background. But God still used him.
What is my status or background? Definitely nothing much... but I know God can and want to use me.... if only I'm willing to be available and obey him.
Right now, I'm in a bus travelling through life until the time when God will drop me off somewhere... to continue my walk with Him.
Thank you dear for the beehun.
If this situation persists, then I don't have the means/income to employ any worker. Means that I'll be back to my earlier status quo, managing the shop on my own... means that not much time at home with family... means that M will have to continue to take care of the children all by herself. God... grant us strength and good health. And may Your face shine upon us.
Received news that many more areas are flooded. Thank God that the rain stopped for a day though there are heavy clouds over the sky.
Many shoplots are flooded in Malim.... no business.
Wednesday, December 20, 2006
some parts of Johor are flooded. The river behind the shop is overflowing.
rainy days also makes me lazy. i thinks I'm more of a reptilia than a mammal. Cold means less activity. prefer to hibernate. ok... must go back now and sleep.
then after a few minutes there's this police car passed by and I saw the policeman waved me asking me to stop my car. hahaha busted. So kena saman lah... lazy to appeal to him... its 4am and I'm sleepy. So saman lah.
Thank God, when reached home can sleep well.
Tuesday, December 19, 2006
Worker oh Worker... where art thou. If thou are searching elsewhere, come thou to Starhawk Internet Cafe. But are thou honest and realiable? Are thou a man/woman of thou word? If not... be gone thou and never ever dare to step into my domain.
Anyway, it'll be good for Mom to know that her children remembers her even during Christmas.
How loving my wife trying to make my Bday a memorable one. Gave me a whole body massage. Next time must get a better body lotion, one that can "absorb" into your skin and not leaving a lotion feeling after the massage. Thankyou dear.
Then off to work...
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
oh... family...... Michelle is great.... doing household chores everyday. Really respect her for her initiative to look after the house. But the volume of household chores is taking its toll. Will try and help her out more. Especially taking care of the children. Lord please bless the business so that I will have more time to be with the family. I know she's trying her best to do something special for my birthday and I thank God for that. All I want for my birthday is a quiet time and just be with her... talking and sharing our hearts and feelings. Miss those times where we talk and talk and just share from our hearts.
Barnabas is very very very manja... always want to be carried. Too manja I would say. If I jaga him... sure cry coz I don't carry him... put him down so that he can try to crawl... but no... he don't want to crawl but want to cry. haiyoooooooooo. no wonder Michelle is so stressed.
The two girls are also very manja, always want to be carried (Clarissa) and want to sleep besides their mummy. But its' nice to hold them, hug them and let them tell what happened to them.
Next week, I'll be doing daytime shift, so will have time to be with my family at night. Hope to be able to help Michelle with the children.
ahh... business.... have been slow this past one week.... don't know exactly why.... but I'm praying that God will send more customers. My guesses. The Vietnamese are working night shifts so they didn't come. Somemore, I heard that the companies are not giving overtime (business not good).... so they've no money to spend. The college students that frequents my cafe are on holidays for a month. Giant Hypermarket has yet to open. Rained for the past few days. Looks like I've to get a Malay as my permanent staff. They are willing to accept a low paying job. Pray that God will send a trustworthy, honest and diligent worker.
Relationship with God..... a new phase. Faith, trust, obedience, prayer, righteousness, earnestness, fervency, blessings, enlarge, taking hold, claiming, promises, inheritance, giving, .... all these words came to mind. Hope that in due time everything will fit in its proper place.
Haven't fully decided where to attend church on a regular basis. At least one important criteria is that church must have a proper mother's room and clean (for Michelle, Barnabas and Clarissa).
Mother... from the emails... she is getting better.. and she looks better (from the photos). Maybe she'll be back by end of this month, after Christmas. Will be having her check-up on 21,22 and 26 of this month. That also, provided that the maid comes in. Without the maid, Mother will not be staying at home, coz nobody to look after her.
The front house auntie (acheh Eng) have been taking things from the house. Stealing.... things like starfruits, sukun, kelapa, bunga telang, pisang... and maybe other stuffs that we are not aware of. As though lah that all the things at our house is hers. Somemore, don't even ask permission and at least inform/request lah... nothing.... silent... and we heard it from other people. ..... Need to put up the wire fence soon.
ok lah.. will stop here for now. Right now, there's no customers in the cafe. it's raining outside. sales very low today. will wait until 12midnight before closing. oh.. need to paint the cement also.
Thank you Lord. Love you too for being in control.
Monday, November 13, 2006
Cost to add another 5 PCs is about 11K. Wah… wonder whether I’m too daring and optimistic about the business.
Has yet to find workers for the shop. Need to go by word of mouth already.
Sunday, November 12, 2006
Great because God has been with the business and the income is more than the expenses. Not much but at least I don't have to come out extra money to cover the cost. Praise God for that. Also in the past 11 days in November, the sales have been steady.
Now the opportunities to minister to my customers are more. Not just the Vietnamese, Indonesians and Nepalese, there are also the Malaysian youths that I can minister to. Having said that, so far the only progress is building up friendship with them. Also playing Christian music in the shop helps me to focus on Jesus, which is really helpful during busy time. Have yet to get the Christian materials to be distributed to the foreign workers.
Time - tough when taking care of the shop on my own. Now looking for 2 shop assistants to look after the shop. Daytime and night time shifts. Praying that God will provide those that can be trusted and capable in pc troubleshooting. Can only offer RM500 a month. May the Lord provide.
Mom is still in the hospital. Been there for more than 2 weeks. Praise God that she is recovering well. It will be a week or so before she can fully recovered. After this, life will be different. With Mom's condition, things at home will be very different. Another stage of life, hoping that things will fit into places soon and smoothly. Am praying that things will go back to normal,.... but then life should not be "normal" but offering various challenges to make me grow more into Christlikeness. Due to the work in the shop, haven't got time to attend church. All the more must develop a closer walk with God... which seems strangely difficult and not as easy as I thought. No, working in an internet cafe is not so free as most people thought. Always got things to do.
The good thing is that I lost a few kilos of my weight. Also strange coz I thought I'll gain weight "doing nothing in an internet cafe". Maybe because of lack of sleep and different working hours as before. I do feel lighter, my pants are loose, but I also feel that I'm no longer fit. Have not have any exercises for more than 2 months. Thank God for the Usana Essential supplements that keeps my body healthy. God first and the supplements.
Monday, October 02, 2006
So far, not many customers yet. The Giant Hypermarket that is supposed to open before Hari Raya will only be ready before Christmas. Looks like they need about another 2 months before they can be ready. Most of the shops here are waiting for the Giants to "wake up".
Looks like Kamdar is going to open very soon, maybe within this week. All their clothes and dresses and whatever stuffs are already in the premises. No signboard up yet.
As for me... the lack of customers are a bit of a challenge (using a better word than "worry"). More customers during night time, mostly foreign workers using the Yahoo Messenger to chat with their friends back home. Now that's good news to me because this is why I choose this location... to be where the foreigners are. This will be a good place for me to practice my mission calling. Vietnamese, Nepalese, Cambodians, Indonesians, Pakistanis and Malaysians have come to the shop. I pray that God will empower and enabled me to relate and build friendships with these people so that Christ will be revealed to them.
I pray (and please pray for me also) that God will bring in as many customers possible so that I don't have to worry about the income to sustain the business. Then I'll be able to have more time firstly for my family, then to mission training, then to other needs. As for this month, I'll be full time at the shop from morning till 12 midnight.
Oh ya, last month while I was still doing some stuff for the shop, two Pakistanis came to use the internet. I let them use... the computers can already be used though other things are not ready. Then one of them came back in the evening and we managed to chat. Got to know him better and managed to share about sin and Christ to him. Using the bridge method and Korban concept to share with him why people need to believe in Jesus.
During the Asian Sports Conference in YMCA, KL, a few of my friends promised to send to me brochures in their respective languages. These I will put at my cashier counter and my customers can take and read it for free. I pray that many will want to know more about Christ when they read the phamplets.
Will go out and give out more brochures to promote the business. We may plan but it is God who prospers his people.
Thursday, August 03, 2006
Monday, July 31, 2006
Since I resigned from my post in the church, my life has been busy. I thought being at home will give me more free time but no... its much more hectic. Household chores can really take all your time.. and its never ending one. Now I know that housewives are much more busier than those working in the office.
It looks like that God has slowly shown me the next step/stage of my life... careerwise. I plan to start my own business. It went through two deaths of a vision. And now it starts to unravel in a wonderful and marvellous way.
There are many blessings that God has shown me if only I learn to obey His commands even in the setting up of the business. Many of these blessings are wonderful testimonies of God's providence, which I can't share at this moment.
One testimony that I will share is about the shoplot needed for the business. As I surveyed the areas that are suitable for the business, I found one good place for the business. And I also found one shoplot for rent in TBU, which is very strategic and would be the best place for the business. Called the owner Mr C and agreed with him that I would rent the place from him. However, since the money has not come in, I dare not put in any deposit with him. I told him that I would need more time to wait for the money to come in before I make the deposit for the tenancy.
Verbally, Mr C agreed to give me a call first should other people also wants to rent the shoplot. I trusted him. Then on 27 July I received an sms from Mr C saying, "Regret 2 inform d Bacang Utama shop has been rented. Unable 2 call as tenant place deposit on d spot". SMS received at 22.03pm but I only saw the sms at about 22.30pm. Tried to call him twice but to no avail. Voice message. I was very very disappointed and angry too. How could he do such a thing. Not keeping to his word. Also angry because the money has not come in earlier for me to clinche the tenancy.
Anyway, I'm reminded of the song, "In all things give thanks to the Lord, He is good". Though very disappointed, angry and frustrated, I know that I still need to give thanks to God, ... and I did. To me the non-availability of the shop signifies the death of a vision. There is no other strategic shop available for rent. But I'm reminded to bless those who persecute you, to love and bless your enemies.
As the Holy Spirit fills me with God's ways and love, I decided to reply to his SMS. I wrote, "Truthfully, I'm disappointed becoz you did not keep your word. Forgiven. I pray dat God will bless you abundantly - sincerely davidbong". SMS sent at 22.51pm. Though its hard todo, I prayed for God's blessing upon Mr C.
The next day, I was really down, wondering about God's plan for my life. In the evening as I passed by the same area, I saw another shoplot at a different block/location that is for rent. Called the agent and managed to see the inside of the shoplot. Not the best of shoplot for the business. Even my wife feels uneasy with the shop. I was disappointed because my wife doesn't like the place. Anyway, we did not confirm the shoplot. After much discussion, my wife and I agreed to pray for a shoplot at the same row as the previous shop in TBU. If no shoplot is available until this coming Friday, we will go for the existing available shoplot. As much as I want to start the business as soon possible, I also want a shoplot where both my wife and I are totally at peace with.
On Monday, at about 18.30pm I received a call from Mr C. He was very apologetic and told me that the tenancy with the other tenant does not come through and he is asking me whether I'm still interested with the shop. I was very surprised and excited. He asked me whether I'm angry at him for what happened, to which I assured him that I'm not. Also told him that I prayed for him. So I got the shoplot that I wanted... plus he is willing to reduce the rental by RM50.00. Praise God for His timing.
I know I've learned something... to trust God and give Him thanks in all situations. I also learned patience as God arrange all things according to His own timing, not my time or way. I pray that the owner will be ministered through this event... and will come to know Christ through me.
In His Time, He Makes All Things Beautiful.
Wednesday, June 14, 2006
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
Praise God! For His blessings upon Michelle and I. Barnabas Bong safely born on 12 June 2006 at 6.17pm at General Hospital, Melaka. Praise God for giving Michelle the strength and comfort to give birth without me besides her. Praise God for all the support we received from the church members who prayed for us.
Photos will come later.
Monday, June 12, 2006
Thursday, June 01, 2006
There are five great purposes that God wants each one of us to fulfill or seek to help others fulfill. They are given in sequential order in the life of Adam.
- The first and most important work is to establish and maintain an unbroken relationship with the Lord.
- The second is to demonstrate God’s love and power through a livelihood.
- The third is to develop a life message based on obedience to God’s commands.
- The fourth is to experience a loving oneness in marriage, and
- Fifth is to raise up Godly sons and daughters who are mighty in Spirit.
The rewards of loving God’s commands are given in Psalm 112:1–2: “… Blessed is the man that feareth the LORD, that delighteth greatly in his commandments. His seed shall be mighty upon earth: the generation of the upright shall be blessed.”
Let’s search out the great works that God preordained for us and give our whole heart, soul, mind, and strength to accomplishing them so that we can reach new levels of spiritual maturity.
Wednesday, May 17, 2006
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a good mother
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:*
45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:*
51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT: *
54. Never to forget:
* arrangements she makes
HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY*
1. Bring beer
2. Hand over the remote.
AMAZINGLY TRUE, ISN'T IT!
The inference had been that drinking beer makes men turn into women.
- Gained weight
- Talked excessively without making sense
- Became overly emotional
- Couldn't drive
- Failed to think rationally
- Argued over nothing
Saturday, May 13, 2006
The teacher said: in order to answer your question, go to the paddy field and choose the biggest paddy and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turnback to pick.
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big paddy, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is an even bigger one waiting for him.Later, when he finished more than half of the paddy field, he start to realize that the paddy is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him,
this is love... you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person.
The student asked: What is marriage then?
The teacher said: In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick.
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he has picked one medium corn that he fee satisfied, and came back to the teacher.
The teacher told him, this time you bring back a corn.... you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get ....
this is marriage.
Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest??
It isn't love, it's like.
It isn't love, it's lust.
It isn't love, it's luck.
It isn't love, it's loneliness.
It isn't love, it's loyalty.
It isn't love, it's low confidence.
It isn't love, it's pity.
It isn't love, its infatuation.
It isn't love, it's friendship.
It isn't love, it's a lie.
It isn't love, it's charity.
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad??
Then it's love.
Then it's love.
Then it's love.
Then it's love.
Then it's love.
Then it's love.
The answer is so simple cause it's...LOVE. It is such an addictive thing that even people who are not having it wish to experience it and share it with others as well.
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams
don't have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the
only way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer,
smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps
to correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
Tuesday, May 09, 2006
Got this from an email. Most of them are true.
21 st Century...
Our communication - Wireless
Our dress - Topless
Our telephone - Cordless
Our cooking - Fireless
Our youth - Jobless
Our food - Fatless
Our labour - Effortless
Our conduct - Worthless
Our relation - Loveless
Our attitude - Careless
Our feelings - Heartless
Our politics - Shameless
Our education - Valueless
Our follies - Countless
Our arguments - Baseless
Our boss - Brainless
Our Job - Thankless
Our Salary - Very less
Monday, May 08, 2006
My wife asked me this question about 2 months ago. Check her blog http://michemaylee.liquidblade.com/?p=431
My wife asked me this question about 2 months ago. Check her blog http://michemaylee.liquidblade.com/?p=431
Well, I guess that most married man will face this question at least once in their life. I’ve survived but maybe not many men are blessed like me.
Well, I guess that most married man will face this question at least once in their life. I’ve survived but maybe not many men are blessed like me.
Here is what would normally happened during that conversation.
Here is what would normally happened during that conversation.
Question : What would you do if I died?
A definite no-win question. (The real answer of course is "Buy a Ferrari and a boat".)
No matter how you answer this, be prepared for at least an hour of follow-up
questions, usually along these lines:
WOMAN: Would you get married again?
MAN: Definitely not!
WOMAN: Why not? Don't you like being married?
MAN: Of course I do.
WOMAN: Then why wouldn't you remarry?
MAN: Okay, I'd get married again.
WOMAN: You would? (with a hurt look on her face)
MAN: (makes audible groan)
WOMAN: Would you sleep with her in our bed?
MAN: Where else would we sleep?
WOMAN: Would you put away my pictures and replace them with pictures of her?
MAN: That would seem the proper thing to do.
WOMAN: And would you let her use my golf clubs?
MAN: She can't. She's left-handed.
Saturday, April 08, 2006
I went to one of the NS camp for the Religious Class. The first week, there are only 11 students that came, most of them are Christians. The second week (last week) saw a group of about 25 students in the class, where about 15 of them are non-Christians. What a wonderful opportunity to minister to them the love of God. The topic shared was the "5 Languages of Love" which they enjoyed and showed their interests. This led them to come again for the class the next day and the number added to about 50 students. Some of the students requested for Bibles, which was given to them FOC. As this is a good opportunity to share to them, I took the opportunity and promised them a film show for the coming Thursday (this week). Most of them have not seen the movie as the movie is not screened to the public in the cinema (except with special permission).
On Thursday night I went alone to the camp. Reached the camp at 8.10pm, much earlier to set up the LCD projector. After completing the setup at about 8.30pm, the students started to come in. Didn't expect the number of the students to be many but many came to the classroom. It seems that the Christian trainer Mr. F has informed all the non-Muslims students about the film show. The classroom was not big enough to sit all the non-Muslims students. Because of that, some of the students that are not able to go inside the classroom had to attend another class under Mr F.
Altogether there are about 90 - 100 students that watched the movie The Passion of The Christ. Most of them have not seen the movie. The show started at 8.50pm. Managed to share briefly about the movie and the purpose of Jesus suffering on the cross.
The movie is about 2 hours. During the show, the students watched attentively especially during the scene where Jesus is being tortured. I sincerely believe that they are touched by what they see in the movie. Throughout the movie, I prayed that the Holy Spirit will convict the students of guilt in regard to their sin (quoting from John 16:8, a Scripture verse shared by Mrs Kirby, a missionary lady, the night before in a prayer meeting)
The setback is that I have to stop the movie before the ending. As the students have to go for the roll call at 10.45pm, I had to stop the movie abruptly and let the students go. The reason is that the Chief Trainer who is a Malay is not happy if we continue until after 10.45pm. As such, I had no opportunity to give an altar call for the students. I feel dissapointed that I was not able to give the altar call. I wanted so much to see more souls enter the Kingdom. But God has a better plan.
The next night (last night), I went there with another 4 church members. Earlier I planned to just divide the group and start a new topic. Somehow, by God's direction I was moved to bring the VCD, a laptop and the LCD. I'm thinking of using the laptop and LCD or my Powerpoint presentation of the topic, not so much of showing the movie. And this is indeed a blessing. As we reached the class and starts to setup the laptop and LCD, the students came in and fill up the classroom. They wanted to see the ending of the movie. Hallelujah..!!!! They all came back for the movie. We showed the ending part of the movie (which is only about 5 minutes). I took the opportunity to relate God's love as shown in the movie and invited those interested to know about Christ to meet me or the church members.
Then we divided the students into Mandarin speaking and non-Mandarin speaking group. Wow! there are about 50 Mandarin speaking students. As they left to another class, the Indian students came back from their visit to the temple. And these Indian students came into my class requesting to see the ending of the movie. Praise God! (Now I know God's purpose for allowing the movie to stop just 5 minutes before the ending). Promised them to show the movie after the class. Proceeded to teach the class (25 of them) about moral and ethics. After the class, I showed the ending of the movie (for the second time that night). Again I took the opportunity to share to them the love of Jesus who had to suffer on the cross for their sins.
As we were packing our things to go back, I was informed that 2 girls approached one of the church members, desiring to believe in Jesus and they were led into the Kingdom in prayer. Hallelujah! Praise God! I'm so excited.
Praise God for the 2 souls that entered the Kingdom last night.
Praise God for the Scripture verse shared by Mrs Kirby which I can use in my prayer.
Praise God for the Church for releasing the cell group to minister in the NS camp.
Praise God for the movie that tried to portray Jesus' suffering as best as possible.
Praise God for the LCD projector.
Praise God Mr F who encouraged the students to go to the class.
Praise God for the work of the Holy Spirit who convicts people of their sins.
Praise God for His love for me.
Praise God for giving me this opportunity to minister to these precious souls.
All glory be unto God.
Lord, bring more students into your Kingdom.
Friday, April 07, 2006
See Enemies as Agents!
Wisdom is basing responses on the bigger picture. This means recognizing that whatever happens to us is not the whim of fate, or the will of man, but the work of God. If a sparrow cannot fall to the ground without God’s approval, neither can anyone attack us without God’s permission.
If we view revilers as our enemies, we will get angry and discouraged, but if we see them as agents for our good and God’s glory, we will rejoice!
Paul was tormented and attacked so painfully that he pleaded with God three times to deliver him. When God explained that this messenger (agent) from Satan was allowed for the purpose of keeping Paul humble so that the power of God would rest upon him, Paul gloried in the assault and took pleasure in it. (See II Corinthians 12:6–10.)
Job had the same insight. Satan was clearly responsible for the destruction of Job’s children, possessions, and health; yet, Job did not say, “God has given, and Satan has taken away.” Instead, he said, “The LORD gave, and the LORD hath taken away…” (Job 1:21).
God causes the wrath of men to praise Him by using revilers to bring about the very achievements that they ridiculed.
The brothers of Joseph reviled him for his preposterous dreams that one day they would bow down before him. In an act of hate and envy, they sold him as a slave, which actually brought his dreams to pass. Later, he told them, “Ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good” (Genesis 50:20).
Jesus was reviled by the Pharisees for stating that if they destroyed the temple (of His body), He would raise it up in three days. Their cruel act of nailing Him to the cross allowed this historic achievement to come to pass for our salvation.
Actually, the pages of Scripture and history are filled with examples of great achievements that were facilitated through the reviling of opponents. Dr. Raymond Damadian was ridiculed by colleagues for thinking that he could design an imaging unit that would produce an image of internal organs. Their reactions spurred him on to invent the MRI scanner, which revolutionized diagnostic medicine.
Since this is the way of God, it is no wonder that we are to rejoice when all men speak evil of us falsely. God is getting such a person ready for great achievement here and for great rewards in heaven!
Through Christ our Lord,
Thursday, April 06, 2006
A little boy came up to his mother in the kitchen one evening while she was fixing supper, and he handed her a piece of paper that he had been writing on. After his Mom dried her hands on an apron, she read it, and this is what it said:
For cutting the grass: $5.00
For cleaning up my room this week: $1.00 For going to the store for you: .50 Baby-sitting my kid brother while you went shopping: .25 Taking out the garbage: $1.00 For getting a good report card: $5.00 For cleaning up and raking the yard: $2.00 Total owed: $14.75
Well, his mother looked at him standing there, and the boy could see the memories flashing through her mind.
She picked up the pen, turned over the paper he'd written on, and this is what she wrote:
For the nine months I carried you while you were growing inside me: No Charge.
For all the nights that I've sat up with you, doctored and prayed for you: No Charge.
For all the trying times, and all the tears that you've caused through the years: No Charge.
For all the nights that were filled with dread, and for the worries I knew were ahead: No Charge.
For the toys, food, clothes, and even wiping your nose: No Charge.
Son, when you add it up, the cost of my love is: No Charge.
When the boy finished reading what his mother had written, there were big tears in his eyes, and he looked straight at his mother and said, "Mom, I sure do love you". And then he took the pen and in great big letters he wrote:
"PAID IN FULL"
~ Author Unknown
Friday, March 03, 2006
Susannah Wesley (1669-1742) was a London pastor's wife and the mother of
nineteen children, including hymn writer Charles Wesley and John Wesley,
evangelist and found of Methodism. In his journal, John Wesley recorded his
mother's rules for the family [paraphrased]:
1. Fear of punishment often leads children into lying, till they get
accustomed to it and cannot stop. To prevent this, my mother made a rule
that whenever someone did something wrong, if they would sincerely
confess it, and promise to change their behavior, they would not be
2. No sinful action, such as lying, stealing, playing in church, being
disobedient, fighting, etc., would ever go unpunished.
3. No child should be punished twice for the same error, and if they change
their behavior the error should never be mentioned again.
4. Every act of obedience, especially when it went against their nature,
should always be complimented, and frequently rewarded.
5. If any child was obedient or tried to please the parents, even if it
wasn't done that well, the obedience was kindly accepted and the child
encouraged to do even better in the future.
6. The property of the children would be respected, even the smallest object,
and not taken away from them unless they agreed.
7. Promises should be strictly kept. Once a gift is given it could not be
taken back, unless it was a conditional gift and the agreement it was
based on was violated.
-From "The Heart of John Wesley's Journal"
Below is a version found on the Internet, May 27, 1998.
Over 200 years ago a lady named Suzanna Wesley reared 19 children. She was
devoted to the task and had 16 rules. They are as follows:
(1) Eating between meals not allowed.
(2) As children, they are to be in bed by 8 PM.
(3) They are required to take medicine without complaining.
(4) Subdued self-will in a child working together with God to save the
(5) Teach a child to pray as soon as he can speak.
(6) Require all to be still during Family Worship.
(7) Give them nothing they cry for, and only that which they ask for
(8) To prevent lying, punish no fault which is first confessed and repented.
(9) Never allow a sinful at to go unpunished.
(10) Never punish a child twice for a single offense.
(11) Commend and reward good behavior.
(12) Any attempt to please, even if poorly performed should be commended
(13) Preserve property rights, even in smallest matters.
(14) Strictly observe all promises.
(15) Require no daughter to work before she can read well.
(16) Teach children to fear the Lord.
Saturday, February 25, 2006
Praise God! Hooray… another precious soul entered the Kingdom of Heaven.
On Thursday nite, I went to a NS camp, to give the “Ceramah Agama” or religious talk to the Christian trainees in the camp. After the talk, one of the trainee Nichol approached me and told me that she is not a Christian and she wants to know how to become a Christian. I told her to come again to the class the next day Friday which she did.
Yesterday, I manage to find a Mandarin Bible and a few literature from the Chinese church. Brought it to the camp last nite. After the talk about the various meaning of the word “love” in the Greek language and the 5 languages of love, I called Nichol to lead her to accept Christ. I also asked another trainee, Wendy to be a witness to the conversation.
Nichol was ready to accept Christ. She has lots of questions as to how she should live her life as a Christian. Told her that the first and important thing to do at that time is to accept Jesus as her Lord. Then I shared briefly salvation story using the bridge illustration. She understands it very well. Then I led her to say a prayer to accept Jesus as her personal God, in Bahasa. She followed the prayer… and we rejoiced together after the prayer.
Praise God… for another precious soul that is saved. Will share about Christian Living next coming Thursday nite.
Friday, February 10, 2006
Thinking of my heart. What’s wrong with it? Can I get another heart if my heart fails? What’s the cost of heart transplant? Where can I get the money? Is there a heart suitable for my body? ………………….. must rest now… not feeling good well.
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Friday, February 03, 2006
Went to Michelle colleaque’s house for CNY. One of her sister was there and saw me. The next day, Michelle was told that her colleaque sister asked about my race. She said that I don’t look like a Baba.
Hmmmmmm…. what do I look like? If not a Baba, then what. In the past, many has mistaken me for many other races…. among them… Iban, Indian, Kadazan, Philipino, Indonesian and of course a Malay. Wow… I’m a man of many faces/races. Yet, can only speak BM and English.
What I know is that I’m definitely OCBC.
Friday, January 20, 2006
Read this article on The Star today. Interesting quotes about the role of judges and accountability.
“Given the very nature of their duties and responsibilities, judges were exposed to public scrutiny and criticism, Justice Shim added.
“It has been said that public criticism of the judiciary within limits is permissible,” he said.
“Justice is not a cloistered virtue; she must be allowed to suffer the scrutiny and respectful, even through outspoken, comments of ordinary men,” he added, quoting Britain's renowned Law Lord, Lord Atkin.”
This reminded me of what I learned in law school. “Nobody is above the law and nobody should act as though they are above the law. Everyone must be accountable to another.” Another thing/quote that I’m reminded of is “Justice must not only be done but be seen to be done.”
May the judges of this country upholds justice without fear or biasness.
Thursday, January 12, 2006
A young man had completed medical school. He went back home to the small town to work with his father. They went out the first day to make house calls. As they went in the first house the father said now you watch me so you will know what to do.
Inside, a woman was in the bed and she looked terrible. The old doctor checked her out. He was making notes when he dropped his pen to the floor. He picked it up and told the woman she need to quit cleaning and working so hard in her house, she just needed rest.
When they got outside, the son asked how he knew that she was cleaning too much. The old doctor said that when he dropped his pen, the floor was so clean that there wasn't a speck of dust anywhere.
When they arrived at the next house, the father told his son that it was his turn to examine the patient. At this house too, the woman was in bed, looking terrible. The young doctor took her blood pressure and pulse, asked a few questions, and made some notes. Then he dropped his pen and reached down to pick it up. He told the woman that she was doing too much church work, and needed to cut down on what she did.
When the two doctors went outside, the old doctor asked the young one how he knew that she was doing too much church work.
The young one said, "Well, when I bent down to pick up my pen, I saw the preacher under the bed."
Thursday, January 05, 2006
What is important to me is that my pastor is trying to keep his promise. We will try to meet at least twice a month, just to keep each other updated. Sounds good. Almost like what we did during my first 3 years in ministry. Though most of the time we didn't meet due to other unforseen circumstances but at least there was open communication. I pray that this year it will be a change to the better.
Looks like I'll be taking care of the monthly missions trip to various churches and outreaches. May this be the opportunity for the members to be excited again about serving the Lord. May this be the opportunity for them to exercise their spiritual giftings. And may this be their motivation to draw closer to God.
My pastor also asked me about starting a preaching outreach in Tanjung Minyak, a place near my house. Not keen at all to do this. I'm not a pioneer or church planter. I'm a team player. Anyway, that's an opportunity available to me should I want to.
The church backdrop for this year is "Relational Evangelism in 2006". Finished putting it up just now. More relationships to build this year.